I know that might sound harsh, but just hear me out.
I believe that my job as a parent is to raise my kids to be respectful, kind human beings. I don’t believe that I need to spend every minute of my day entertaining them.
I am not talking about when they are babies of course. Babies need interaction to help them learn and develop sociable habits. It goes without saying that they also need constant supervision, especially once they become mobile.
This post is more geared to the parents of the toddlers and up age. I supervise my kids, but I do not play barbies or color with them. I have always been more of a loner myself. I played alone as a kid and preferred it that way. I still enjoy time to myself. I encourage my kids to use their own imaginations and learn independence.
My 6 year old is the one who really struggles with independence. She hates playing alone and wants to be entertained constantly. My 3 year old; on the other hand, loves to play alone. She prefers it that way. In fact, she is in the other room right now playing with her dolls. I love that she is so independent, but it drives her older sister crazy because she regularly rejects her offers to play together.
I may not play with my kids, but I like to spend time with my girls in other ways. My girls love when I do their nails, hair, or even some makeup! We like to take trips to the mall to ride the merry-go-round and eat lunch, or even movie dates at the dollar theater! Sometimes I take all of them, but I also try to make a point to spend some one on one time with each of them. We also do family movie nights at home or play board games. These are the moments that I love the most. I love that I get to make memories with my girls.
My style of parenting is certainly not a one size fits all. My kids’ needs change on a daily basis. Every family is different and there is certainly nothing wrong with that.